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04 March 2015 @ 10:27 am
If someone has a problem with something you’ve done, do you prefer they confront you directly? Why or why not? When you're the one who needs to tell someone about a problem, what's your method of doing so?
I'd prefer they confront me directly, in private, this is to avoid the conversation from devolving to a purely defensive reaction. Discuss about why it is a problem and what can be done (on both sides) to prevent it from becoming a bigger problem. Sometimes we can agree to disagree, but then the parties involved made an effort and know there's an open channel of communication that can be revisited later. Things always change, perception can also change.

Similarly I'll let people know if I have a problem with what they've done, privately and calmly as possible. Before you confront a person, you should always examine why it is a problem for you and what the other party can do to resolve it. This way when both parties agree on a resolution you don't end up revisiting the same problem.
23 July 2013 @ 12:16 pm
I suppose I suprised myself when I realized things that I deemed insignificant are not for many people.

This time I'm talking about homosexuality.

Posters for Behind the Candelabra can be seen around Melbourne right now, especially in areas around Crown, Melbourne's biggest (possibly only? I don't care enough to find out) casino. Now after reading the synopsis for this movie, makes perfect sense. For those interested the movie is about Liberace, who was the highest-paid performer in the world in the 50's-70's.

At that time, I had no clue. I was with two of my colleagues waiting for a tram and a big, white and glamorous-looking movie poster adorned one side of the tram stop. I turned to one of my colleague who follows entertainment news and asked, "Do you know what that movie is about? Is it about magicians?" I was imagining the life of Vegas-style magicians, sort of the more classic and glamorous version of Now You See Me (A movie I will see--pun not intended).

He thought about it for a few seconds and said, "Those two are gay," and at my quirked eyebrow he added, "the characters I mean, not the actors."

I said, "I get what you meant, but what's the plot? Two gay guys is not a plot. Who are they? What happens in the movie?"

He looked a bit surprised and at that time I realized that maybe for some people 'two gay people' IS a plot. But honestly? I thought people have better taste than to accept such a 'simplistic' plot like that.

Having no issues with homosexuality I always forget that many do, and strongly. I think the younger generation will have a better time of it because many of us are less tied up with religion and logically perceive sexuality as almost a non-factor. It is not inherently bad nor good, pretty much just like every other thing in life.

One may point out to the time AIDS was prolific in the gay community a mere 33 years ago as an example of bad, but we know now that AIDS is not the lovechild of a gay 'communion'. Use protection, you poor ignorant soul. One also may point out the tale of Sodom and Gomorrah as an example of why homosexuality is bad, and I have no response to that since I think the Bible is a great novel to make Hallmark Channel mini-series out of.

That said, while I vote for same-sex marriage, I don't go on GLBT marches (I tried to join once, but ten years ago the people in Swinburne university GLBT group were so intimidating and confrontational--with cause, but I can't agree to violence, defacement or damage of public property for any cause--I had to pull out) or spread flyers. I will debate the 'issue' with whoever is interested in exchanging views, but I'm a passive participant at best as I don't see why it as a big deal.

I can only hope my attitude doesn't affect same-sex couples' progress to reach equality (So honestly I always thought what I do really shouldn't make that much of a difference, but I always find people who disagrees). I probably won't be watching Behind the Candelabra, I was originally interested because I love looking at intricately-made clothes even though I'm not a big fan of Michael Douglas but the plot has potential to be depressing and I don't like watching depressing movies.
Current Location: Australia, Werribee
Current Mood: hungryhungry
24 January 2010 @ 01:39 am
The Morning—Tennis @ Rod LaverCollapse )

The Night—Them Crooked Vultures @ Festival HallCollapse )

Got home around midnight and didn't sleep until 1 AM. I woke up at 4 AM this morning, so I was pretty much awake by the mercy of adrenaline. Gonna pass out and hopefully recover tomorrow.
Current Mood: awakeawake
23 January 2010 @ 05:28 pm
This time I had my lesson on Friday 4pm, which means peak hours and I think I freak out a bit. What I have to remember this time:

It's OK to drive at slower speed, even or especially when the road is crowded.

I got nervous with so many other cars and always try to speed-match them, which is kind of silly >.<

Gonna sleep soon, I've been having trouble sleeping more than 4 hours every night this week.
Current Mood: tiredtired
Current Music: Keane—Everybody's Changing
16 January 2010 @ 03:26 pm
After worrying a bit because my driving RACV instructor is not Australian (I'm always worried with communication problems), I had my first driving lesson today and was really happy with it.

He didn't keep a running commentary while I was driving, which was always a guarantee that I'll lose concentration and wreck my nerves for the rest of the drive. Instead he made this silent hand gestures to the different parts of the car I should pay attention at just the right time, which totally works for me.

Today we're mainly driving around, looking at my positioning in relation to other cars, road signs and marks and speed limits. I need to improve:

1. Keeping 1-1.2m (which now I know is roughly the span of the car door) distance from kerb or car, moving only slightly away from parked cars. Where there's less space, speed must be reduced.

2. MIB, Mirror Indicate Brake or Mirror Indicate Blind Spot. I used to be confused about the order to do this and no one can tell me for sure (and they're slightly different from each other). Now I know I have to check the mirror even when braking and also, indicate first before braking (which means I can indicate further than closer). Ahhh, it's so much clearer now but need more practice on this one.

3. How to tell you're stopping over the dotted line (I'm really bad at knowing where the edges of my car are from the driving seat) and that I can stop up to 2m before dotted/solid line. Yay! I don't have to be bloody precise :)

4. Concentrate on the speed and maintain speed unless it's not safe to do so (I tend to slow down EVERY time the road is too narrow or I can't see other cars properly--this is not ALWAYS necessary).

What I learnt to be wrong: At the STOP sign, must be in complete stop and no matter if there are cars or not, wait for 3 seconds before driving off. (Last driving instructor taught me this)
What's true: At the STOP sign, must be in complete stop and drive off whenever it's safe.

What I learnt to be wrong: There must be at least 100 meters between an oncoming car and your car before you can drive into a road. (Last driving instructor taught me this)
What's true: When there's a safe distance and speed, drive in. Use judgement.

I have good control, which I totally have to credit Rebekah W for, she whooped my ass for not making 'decisive turns'. I was doing this weird 'turn bit-by-bit' that I never noticed until she told me about it.
Current Mood: happyhappy
24 October 2009 @ 02:31 pm
I'm cleaning house and I still have programming books from my uni era, if anyone is interested in adopting any of them, let me know otherwise come mid-November they're going to Oak Park Library.

- GDI+ Programming: Creating Custom Controls using C# by Eric White with Chris Garrett and Simon Robinson (Wrox).
- Teach Yourself E-Commerce Programming with ASP in 21 Days by Walther and Levine (Sams).
- Professional XML 2nd Edition (Wrox).
- E-commerce, Strategy, Technologies and Applications by David Whiteley (McGraw Hill). Comment: Best practices, not programming book.
- 3D Studio MAX R3: f/x and Design by Jon A. Bell (Coriolis).
- Macromedia Flash MX ActionScripting: Advanced Training from the Source by Derek Franklin and Jobe Makar (Macromedia Press).
- Computing Concepts with Java 2 Essentials 2nd Edition by Cay Horstmann (Wiley).
- 3D Studio MAX 3 Bible by Murdock (IDG Books).
- Core Java 2 Resource Kit by Gary Cornell with Cay Hortstmann (The Sun Microsystems Press) (This includes Core Java 2 Volume 1 and Core Java 2 Volume 2)
- Teach yourself ASP .NET in 21 Days 2nd Edition by Chris Payne (Sams).
- C++ For Programmers Third Edition by Leen Ammeraal (Wiley).
- Using Macromedia Director 8.5 by Gary Rosenzweig (Que).
- Teach Yourself Active Server Pages 3.0 in 21 Days (Sams).
- Teach Yourself J2EE in 21 Days by Dan Haywood and Peter Roxburgh (Sams).
Current Mood: busybusy
06 April 2009 @ 10:41 am
Looking at all the housing options around Melbourne, half of me says "Move! Right. Now." the other speak of patience, perseverence and timing.

Half of me looks at possibilities right now, the First Home Grant, 10%-15% deposit and a car that I have, fairly secure job (I'm not making that big a dent in Payroll's books) and low interest rates while the other half wants me to save till I at least have 50% of the house deposit and maybe get a Construction loan instead of a Home Loan so I can be sure my house is Green from ground up, it also points out experts' prediction that house prices will reach bottom next year and I can still live in rental comfortably since I'm not picky.

We know this two, the planner who likes secure choices and the child who isn't afraid of hard work to get what it wants but often overestimate its abilities. The planner would then say, "I told you so." although from time to time the child gets to be smug too.

Which is the root of the matter.
Current Mood: confusedconfused
12 March 2009 @ 06:27 am
I'm not sure if anyone's interested, so I thought I'd put it out there. Anyone care to join me take Owner Building Course at Building Display Centre in Abbotsford? You save $100 if there are two people joining the course.
Current Mood: productiveproductive
Current Music: Morning silence
30 September 2008 @ 10:20 am
Wow, August was the last time I wrote anything? Man, I've been slack.

First thing, here's a little something to read if you're interested: Afterlife by Douglas Clegg. Supposedly a free eBook, but I don't know if it's free for a limited time or not.

Second, I'm back from New Zealand! grungypoo has written most of the highlights, although he keeps his LJ friend-locked (you should friend him!). It was a good trip, although the timing was not so good for me so I couldn't join the fun of bathing in the sulfur-scented hot water. I sat and slept under the sun with a book over my head.

One of the many things that I found striking was the green grass blanketing the land, a contrast to the now yellow and dry grasslands of Australia. It kind of made me sad about the farmers here, they really have it hard at the moment.

There were also the snow-capped mountains and the melted glacier rivers (the water is opaque white), the sun and the moon setting on the same horizon, the abundance of adventure sports and nature. It feels like a country you can get lost in :)
Current Mood: busybusy
16 July 2008 @ 04:22 pm
On my list of lookouts, are cheap fares to Brisbane for November so that I can attend Conquest. It's not a 'must go' event, but in the event that I can get a cheap airfare to it and they still have the Full Convention package available, I will go. Mom is going away around the same time to attend bro's 'Crowning' anyway, so I thought... a chance for me to get loose and run wild!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA! *cough* It didn't hit me until today that I probably won't get a cheap ass ticket to Brisbane ever because Virgin Blue is the only one running flights to/from Brisbane! What the...? Other airlines runs flights to Sunshine Coast instead (a town about an hour's drive from Brisbane). Why does Virgin has monopoly on flights to/from Brisbane? Oh anyway, I've filled this month's expenditure quota when I bought my Metcard yearly ticket, so I can't buy anything else until next month :/

The plan for the trip to Christchurch is coming along though. I have a better idea now of how much I'm supposed to save and I still have to call AQIS to check if I can bring honey from NZ since I found so many varities the last time I was there, I want to buy them all!!

Also, note to self: Never be as angry as I was on Monday, ever again. I woke up Tuesday with The Worst Migraine Ever (throbbing head, throbbing back and the rest of my body felt numb) and even though it's better now, it doesn't take a lot for the headaches to come back. Sometimes I wish I'm the only child, but not really because I can just see myself being a spoilt brat and I'm so not liking that picture.

Thanks for all the encouragement to 'hang in there' and the birthday wishes, I'm really bad with birthdays, I don't know what to do with one. Maybe next year I'll so something for my birthday? We'll see :)

What I did do in this month of my birthday though, was finally getting off my ass to change my mobile phone plan to Prepaid, changed my home phone plan to something cheap ass and we'll see about changing my broadband. I'm contemplating shaving my head bald and bought some clothes that supposedly will improve my 'posture' (Sometimes I hunch without realizing and I'm concerned about that).
Current Mood: chipperchipper